DISCLAIMER: To all you private eyes, gumshoes, investigators and instigators its not really what you think it is...But by all means if you pull a Martin and RUN TELL DAT...then you will increase viewership to the blog so thanks in advance!
(Clears Throat) Ladies and Gentlemen today's case is a very serious one (HOW SERIOUS?!?!)Very, very, very, very, serioussssss...Now, I am sure we have all gone through the ups and downs with Ex's. Do you guys still stay friends? Can you really see other people? Oh...he can't see nobody but you can. Hmmm...so many angles to come at this topic but I will come off the top like a bunk bed ya dig and give you my two theories on the subject matter...
1) The number one argument you will hear is "I mean we been together 8 years, I just cant see myself with anyone else." i.e: Long Relationships...
*Well you know what your right! You guys have been together an awfully long time. But were you arguing everyday? Was he Shoning? Were you shoning lil mama? Did she cater to your needs bruh? Was she listening to her hatin homegirls and you were fed up? Whether you actually tell the truth or speak on the matter or not it is your business. But, the reason why you do not really want to go anywhere is because of your level of comfort. I had a homegirl tell me "Nemo, I'm not really that happy but I really cant see myself back on that Single tip again. And even though things are not going right ITS ALL I KNOW." Although you guys had your ups and downs its just easier because this person understands you. They know you for your good, your bad, and definitely the ugly! Your not happy but you know there is really no one else that can feel you like he or she feels you. Self esteem levels might not be as high as a Red and Meth so you feel like no one else wants you but him. Gained weight since you been with him huh? Let go a little? Let the belt loop to another notch? Yea your right no one would want you FATTY (Joking, Joking, gosh...sorry I love everyone...the Bible says so) Its almost like shoving a SQUARE BLOCK into a CIRCLE shaped box...You know it wont fit but you figure if you keep smashing it in there it will get it to what you want it to be eventually. I will say it is crazy, how comfort will allow a man/woman to stay in a relationship longer than they have to. But it happens...So with all this said you open the flood gates again. You let her come back over because no one else rubs your back like she does or no one checks up on you throughout the day like he does. Well maybe you guys did not really need to break up anyways...Hmmm...or maybe you need to just LET IT GO...Somebody tell em it aint Christmas but its a WRAP!! None the less it happens and its probably happening right now as we speak. Somewhere some group of CHICKS are sitting around a camp fire of rumors and loneliness trying to get you to join the pack! (Annoying homegirl voice): GIRL, YOU-DONT-NEED-HIM!! HE-NEED-YOU!!! An even though Aquafinia cant cool her jet packs she is probably right; but you just can not seem to get that lodged in your head somewhere.
2) Theory # DOS: You will always hear "But man the SEX is soooo Good!!
* Well once again, cant argue with that! But, is sex really that good to the point where you can not move on with your life because you so driven off of the sexual chemistry you guys have with one another. Oh, you stuck like Covalent Bonds aren't ya!!! Yea damn that POWER OF THE P...The power that can wake you up in the middle of the night when you were already sleep four hours ago, the power that can make you put life on hold so that you can go get a quick one! He/She does stuff that NO ONE HAS EEEEEVVVEEEERRRRR DONE...Well, while you think about all the Trojans used, all the R. Kelly songs played, Whips, Chains,(if that's your thing) Strawberries and Whip cream yall have shelled out for one another...Here is another thought...Don't you think your hooked for all the wrong reasons. You cant be around him/her for more than 10 minutes but you can have sex until the sun comes up. You cant stand her WHINING, Mama always nagging you, Always complaining, Trying to check your phone log, wanna sit in the mall for a million hours while you compliment her on 12-15 dresses that all look the same and you really could care less how she much percent she can get off because you just trying to get up outta there before one of yo homeboys spot you and clown you...and You hate his no job having, toilet seat up leaving, never doing nothing but asking you for money lifestyle he leaves but you seem to have that Baby Boy Syndrome. (you know the part where Yvette was like I hate you Jodi, but in the next scene she was...ok you kno!!) You guys cant hold hands in public or even have a decent conversation. Another question comes up: Did you start the relationship off with SEX...hmmmm...Well Mashonda said "It dont get no better."
Final Thoughts: Well, whatever the reason your still hooked on the ex you need to evaluate! Check your self esteem, your priorities, and what ever else you might have going on in your life. And I am no expert but I do have MY OPINIONS and if you feel they matter then cool if not...THEN GET YO OWN BLOG!! LOL!! But real talk though its hard shaking past flings, relationships, cutty buddys, late night creeps and any other forms of sex espionage you find yourself falling for. And remember maybe you do not need to beat yourself up either your HUMAN! You are naturally going to miss anyone or anything that you have invested your time and money into. But at the end of the day whats most important is YOU and if your not happy then why keep putting yourself through the GARBAGE!! Fellas its hard...we not that good at expressing ourselves so when we finally do it means something!! You don't wanna be with her, but you don't wanna be without her neither. You don't want him/her giving up YO GOODS to any other EITHER!! And I don't know what the CURE is but everything heals with TIME!! So...yea TGIF!! (Hell of a way to peace out huh...Just like a guy!) Hope ya'll enjoyed and speak your mind on the topic...share your experiences and speak on it!! Nemo OUT LIKE A KO!!! PEACE!!
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Good insight sir... definitely had me agreeing with you at some parts. Sounds like you talk from experience (or at least from hearing other people's problems lol). Fav quotes:
ReplyDelete"Somebody tell em it aint Christmas but its a WRAP!!"
"An even though Aquafinia cant cool her jet packs she is probably right"
"so driven off of the sexual chemistry you guys have with one another. Oh, you stuck like Covalent Bonds aren't ya!!!"
I like this topic...it's funny but it speaks truth too.
Good job.
Mel
actually i dont have anything to say, ive never been stuck on an ex
ReplyDeletei dont have many of them to begin with
and i never have a problem leaving a situation where i am not being treated right or feel as though i am not getting what i want out of a relationship
and i have never stayed in a relationship where i felt i didnt really care fpr the guy cuz thats not fare to him
nothing is good enough to keep me somewhere if im unhappy
money, sex, occasional great conversations all can be replaced if im not being pleased
i feel that your topic isnt bad howver the 2 points you argue arent the strongest of points or ones that i feel many can relate to
it is almost more beneficial to point out these things
even though the comfort is good there are better ones like ppl staying in what they call a relationship however that view is only one sideded (meaning the girl is calling it a relationship because she doesnt want to admit their just fuck buddies) or the fact that some ppl enter things knowing what htey are getting into but are blinded by what they think they can get out of it whatever that thing is
or how some ppl make excuses for the things that their signif other does instead of calling it what it is
or how in all honesty some ppl are afraid to walk away from bad relationships because they've hyped up the relationship to everyone else just to make themselves look better and dont like to admitt that it wasnt what they said it was
sorry if this was long i could go on and on lol but im happy in my relationship and see it working and if it wasnt i'd leave
Diva
I feels you on that diva!! Preciate ya insight and thanks mel! I just bring you the topic...I am no expert ya dig!
ReplyDeleteI agree.
ReplyDeleteI think your points are valid, but those aren't the ONLY two reasons this could happen. lol
However, neither is a good reason to stay in a relationship. You're either settling or selling yourself short.
that sounded like something that would be in a black version of Marie Claire or Cosmo. one of those "male perspective" articles that gets a girl thinking outside the box on the subject of relationships. real interesting and the shit i love to read.
ReplyDeletethats all i have to say. oh, and a big big AMEN.
I agree with all the "typical" reasons people are stuck on his/her ex. Their are other reasons out there for why people can't get over someone. Well apart from the not really "bad" ones but just not a good reason to be stuck on them, like money, sex, etc. What about the fact that that ONE person changed your life for the better and you are just OH so stuck on him/her because you are in love with them.
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