The concept of dating is like non existent these days. Well, if the time permits for me this semester I am going to try and bring it back or start for that matter. My first date happened last year. Now, you may be like dang your first date?!? I know you have had a girlfriend...Well, yes I have, but when you are in a relationship you can call it a date but its kinda expected that you will go out with your significant other.
So my goal is to attempt to go on dates with an individual who I may not be actually talking to ya know!?! Does this make sense?!?! But there are a few guidelines!!!
1) With most dates one will assume that the guy will be buying the meal, movie ticket or any of those any other miscellaneous things. Well, this may be true but, WHAT YOU WONT DO is be trying to order all types of ish you don't EAT i.e LOBSTER, MARTINI'S, WINE, CAVIAR and all that other foolishness that will bring the tab to $100-200 dollars! Ya feel me!2) Because we go on a DATE does not signify that we are "TALKING, GOING TOGETHER or any other term the URBAN YOUTH puts behind two people being seen together in what may seem like an intimate setting. If we like each other or if we had fun we will go on more dates but if either party does not like the other as much or want to further things that is perfectly fine. It happens. Ya dig!3) Just because we are on a date it does not require me to be the PAYING partner EVERY TIME...We can cover ourselves if need be or we can do things that do not require a GARGANTOUS amount of money needing to be spent. While I am trying to date because I feel like the concept is lost, it does not mean I want to be broke before Thanksgiving. Ya feel me!So whats my Goal you ask?!?!1. I just want to bring back something that seems completely foreign to the college campus or at least foreign to me because this is something I do not really do myself.2. Also, I am about to be graduate and become a "REAL GROWN MAN" so I need to get in that "GROWN MAN" mentality a little bit more. Not saying I need to be reading The Times Magazine and checking stocks on Wall Street but still ya know. Going to chicks houses and seeing chicks in clubs are getting really boring and its time to switch things up. And not saying I can not go to a chicks house but that can not be the ONLY thing I do. Ya feelin me?!?And this will be trial and error because I really do not have a grasp on what I am doing and trust that I do not think I am going to be the most riveting and most interesting person to be dated. But, I just want to try something new. It would be great to find a girlfriend out of the whole ordeal but I am by no means looking for a relationship at the moment so please do not get alarmed or worried. I just wanna break this concept of me having to talk to ONE PERSON AND ONLY ONE PERSON forever and ever AMEN...that's not really how it works and I am not sure who made that seem like that is the norm but it isn't. I digress...but, I will keep you posted on the dates though lol! And that's real!
If you have any questions or concerns feel free to leave a comment and I will get back to you as soon as possible lmao! and oh yea I do not have a car so I gotta figure out how to convince these lovely young dates to come pick me up or catch the bus with me lmao!! rotflmao!! Always a catch 22...and do not diss me...I am just not fortunate to have a whip...Thanks!
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I think your take on this is very interesting....i would elaborate, but.....nahhhhh!
ReplyDeleteI think its great you're wanting to date. I think guys need to be less worried about smashing and more into getting to know someone. The opportunity to have sex will always be there (mostly), but the opportunity of getting to know someone will not.
ReplyDeleteThis is real interesting.. The concept of dating has failed. I think men and women, especially those on campus, have lost this aspect of life. Many are interested in the physical rather than the mental, inner being, personality, etc. Because of this very reason I no longer date those on campus or even thought about a relationship with anyone on campus. Because I invite you over for dinner and a FUNNY movie, does not suggest that you can catch a feel or try to engage me in a lip lock session. A date to the movies, to dinner, or even bowling does not mean at the end of the night I will be going to your place or you coming to mine for a "recap" that many "Love" shows will call it. I had fun, Goodbye.
ReplyDeleteLadies, sometimes you need to take a grip off that purse. You can pay for yourself or you can pay for the two of you. I agree men shouldn't have to pay for every date. Especially if the two of you are feeling each other, its a good way to say, I can carry us too, it don't always have to be you. I guarantee he will respect and appreciate you more at the end of the night. I think the women will appreciate something to this extent. GOOD LUCK!
AWE...I'm so happy that you're trying to date. Most guys & girls (esp. at this college or at least on the undergrad level) believe that a date is chilling at their apartment/dorm. I'm starting to miss the days when a guy would come to my door and actually take me out without expecting to get some. I wish you the best! You're showing guys what they should be doing as one of the good guys :)
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