What hurts more than any other excruciating pain you could probably think of!??!?! Thats right, you guessed it!!! LOVE!! Why does love hurt so much? Why is my heart so broken because of one encounter? Why can't I just let go and move on? Speak on it!!!
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the fact that if one TRULY loves it is done with all of ones heart. If you have ever been in love you know that love is not solely an emotion. Love is manifested in your actions and it consumes your whole being causing you to do things that you would not have done just for an acquaintance
ReplyDeleteso when you love it hurts because it affects you in more ways than one...it hurts your time, thoughts, schedule, money, emotions...ets
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So if love is such an excruciating and self-engulfing emotion why fall in love? Is love worth it or overrated? I have personally never been in love, and I have numerous reasons I could make up but at the heart of it, I just don't see myself setting myself up for this pain people speak of. Is it possible to perhaps love to hard? Sorry, more questions than answers!
ReplyDeleteNot to sound religious or preacher-ish... God is love and that why it is hard for most of us to find love because we dont believe in him as much as we should. God has plans for everyone and that person may not have been the one. Just give it time, your heart will heal. God wont give u what u cant handle and he will surely give u more with the faith u have in him.
ReplyDeleteYea I am usually confused about why love throws me on such a roller coaster ride! Why cant it be simpled and structured. I am an engineer we can understand everything lol! but love just can not be figured out by any means! sad day!
ReplyDeleteI wholeheartedly agree with Wi-fi, and Ekene, I don't think people set themselves up to be hurt for the most part. Usually you can't help or even choose who you love, it kind of just happens. I doubt people say "I'm going to fall in love with that stank dude or female over there who will eventually break my heart and turn me into a bitter individual." Granted some people choose the wrong people to be in a relationship with, but I really doubt people go looking for long-lasting pain.
ReplyDeleteBut I do think it is possible to love too hard...that's what happens when one person loves the other person more, if the other person even loves the first person to begin with.
And yes, God definitely has plans for us! Even with the broken hearts, by the time we find "The One" we'll know more about ourselves, what works and what doesn't and all the previous pain will be overshadowed by the true love we were supposed to be with. You enjoy and appreciate things more when you had to go through hell to get it.
I strongly agree with Wi-Fi, *Pearl*, Bert
ReplyDeleteWhen we're in love we give our all to that one person, we see that special person as perfectly imperfect, precious, amazing, etc. and try to make our fantasy world's of happiness and love come true. We basically put our all in the relationship when we're in love: We dedicate time, sacrifice things and do almost anything we gotta do to make that person happy. This is why love hurts.
As soon as that person doesnt want our love anymore we wonder what we did wrong and we feel like crap, like a failure because we've just lost something so precious, amazing, etc. It's a bad feeling to have. It hurts. && when that special person isnt as precious, amazing, etc. as we think or in other words, does something wrong to hurt us, the fantasy world dies and we are forced to see the reality, that that person isnt "the one," and that's a hard pill to swallow.
Maybe you cant let it go and move on because you're incomplete...it's like, there wasnt any closure to the situation, your still wondering...how or why this happened and you wish you could fix it(that sense of failure). Or maybe it's because you dont wanna believe that, that wasn't the one or that ya'll wasnt meant to be(reality check).
I cant believe I'm sayin'/admittin' it but I was once broken hearted and I thought I would neva get ova it or ova him. I was broken hearted to the extreme, I neva felt so bad in my life!!! But anyway, I felt like no matter what I did, talk to other boys or stop talkin' to him completely, he still controlled my life, I still thought of him daily for months, imagining that we were meant to be, how things would be if we were still together and just wondering. But anyways, that's a long story let's make this long essay a lil shorter
basically, I got through it. lol
point blank period we just gave to much or let our love for the person embody us and take control of us and that's why it hurts. && as far as why you cant let go and move on, think about what you've done to "move on." It wont just happen, it will, in a way, but you have to figure out what's the problem and solve it. For example, if you lack closure in the relationship how will you gain the closure you need.
I'm wondering if I'm makin' sense. lol
I dont know if this is answering the question but whateva lol
good topic =)
I appreciate all the comments. I know this might have been hard to some. And although this did not have a million replies or what not it still had some key valuable things.
ReplyDeleteLove hurts man, no way else to look at it. You INVEST in a person when you love someone. It is not just an open and shut case. Getting your heart broken feels like studying for a test all night and two three weeks prior to the exam to still take the test and fail! ya know!
Emotions OVERFLOW when we are in love...I do not know what its so powerful...but then again it can CONQUER ALL right? Hmmm...food for thought I suppose!