Soo...Scenario...You have been with this person a good amount of time we will say a year or so. But, things have been rough and times are getting hard. Communication is a little off but you guys really do love each other just cant get through this one moment. At some point and time you find out your boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on you...Now what?!?!
Do you think that once a cheater always a cheater?!?! Or can people really change for the best from there prior mistakes?
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Yea, I am gonna firmly believe that you cant teach and old dog new tricks! IF HE PLAYED ME ONCE HE GON PLAY ME ONE MO' GEN!! Fool me once shame on me, Fool me twice im cuttin shit off!! BET DAT!
ReplyDeletelmao!!! Remind me to never holla at the DA BADDEST...hope u not a titletown queen talkin like dat!
ReplyDeleteyea it is kinda crazy to think about if someone can change because I cheated on my boyfriend and it was just me being greedy...he took me back and it was not easy at first. But, I was stupid and did not think about my actions; I was just an immature little girl. And its crazy how he took me back, but he did and now Im just doing everything in my power to make sure he does not think I will do it again!
ReplyDeleteI think that people can change...but only if they really want too...and he/she continues to cheat...let them goo
ReplyDeleteI personally feel that if you cheat once you may cheat again. What is really stopping you. The only reason most people confess is if they get caught if they dont get caught then the cheating continues. All that shit about he aint never home or she aint never home that aint no reason to go trickin...its rough and relationships can get real but if someone is not there for you then let they ass go dont be cheatin and then gon wanna come home and act like nothing wrong.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is communication!! WE DONT TALK TO OUR MATES N E MORE ABOUT PROBLEMS! We let em build and then they explode!
Thats the way it is...
i'm really big on LOYALTY in general and if you've displayed to me that you dont have that trait then i gotta let you go. i would NEVER take somebody back who cheated on me, that's like still being bff's w/ someone who stabbed you in the back...actually that's exactly what it is. i feel like for a relationship to succeed you gotta be friends foremost and if you wouldn't betray your friends why would betray your gf/bf?
ReplyDeleteI've been in a situation with an individual who was a cheater, I forgave him, took him back, and he cheated again. Now I always try to live by the philosophy of giving people second chances, but I have come to understand that unless that individual has gone through some growth, then they will always go back to their bad habits. Cheaters can reform, but it doesn't come because their significant other wants them to, it comes when they decide to take a step back, look at their actions and deal with their issues. Many times this means that although you may love that person, you have to let them go to allow them to be on their own for awhile.
ReplyDeleteIf you take your significant other back and clearly there is no change in how he or she acts, then it is definitely possible that they will do it again. Making mistakes and learning from them is a skill, but unfortunately some people pass on that lesson.
Your right if they learn from there mistakes then yes. If not then you can only wait them out and see...
ReplyDeleteIts just tough because its like you hate and love the person all at the same time ya know. And you dont know which emotion to display because you just loved them a few hours prior to them getting caught. So, I dont know its a rough world when the cheating arises. I got that Mario Winnan approach "I dont wanna know" ya feel me...
And I will be damn if I am fighting a dude cause my lady let him hit! hell to the nah!