Can a long distance relationship really work?!?! Can we really just make it without seeing our spouse regularly?! How long can we really kiss each other through the phone?!?! And I dont know if this cyber lovin is gonna allow me to download anymore of my thoughts on hard drive for you...so let me know blogspot visitors does love really conquer all...or do we just hang up the phone and go our separate ways...Speak on it...Click the little thought bubble right above the picture to add your comment...
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Well, my opinion personally is that long distance relationships really can not work.
ReplyDeleteWhy you may ask?!??! Because they put an unnecessary stress on each individual that they are really not ready to grasp. I have been there and done that with long distance relationships. I have tried to stick things out with my man through the hardships. I did what I could.
We fussed, we argued, we cried, we hung up on each other and after a while enough became enough. Everything happens for a reason and I am sure if we were together things would have been a lot different. Even if we argued it would be more relevant as oppose to he say she say garbage!
But maybe someone else can explain where they went right or just make me feel normal for thinking these things will always go wrong.
Long Distance relationships can work, as long as two mutual adults have an understanding of each other, trust, and friendship. Yes it will be hard, but I beleive love does conquer all....
ReplyDeleteSo you mean to tell me that people who have signifcant others away at war, for school, etc, can't make it simply because they are not within a drive/walk away? Their would be alot more single people in the world if that was the case.
I takes two strong and commited people to have a long distance relationship, but if BOTH people are really in in, then in the long run, I believe it will work out fine
Yea I feel like long distance relationships can work if your heart is truly in the person. If it really is not in the person then it really take nothing to break you guys apart from one another. It is stressful, but if you can bare with being apart from each other then you can make it together.
ReplyDeleteNo they just don't.....
ReplyDeleteOkay, so you might love the person oh so much that you trust them with eveything and all BUT there are ALWAYS moments of weakness--those nights where you just want a shoulder to cry on or someone to hold you tight because you are having family problems or maybe your pet dog just died or something. But whatever the situation is, you are going to go look for love in a place you should not be looking...and that just may be your girlfriend's/boyfriend's best friend's house.
It is only for so long you can do that over-the-phone game. Things happen for a reason. I feel for the time of separation, the couple should split. You save yourself from the stress, fights and tears at night. And if the love you and your boo has is true, then it will last until you two get back together. That's love right there :-)
I feel like when there is a long distance relationship its way to easy for someone to creep up and steal whats yours. like Kessy said there are too many moments of weakness.
ReplyDelete1)To many late night thoughts
2)To many people who are just more conveniently available
3)It just seems like a very hard process to have someone I love not be next to me all the time
I know it has been done but it just seem like its the impossible of impossibles of my opinion. There is so much temptation when the person IS THERE imagine when THEY ARE NOT THERE!!
Long distance relationships in my opinion will eventually end in seperation if the couple doesnt have a mutual understanding of each other and lack a certain discipline and commitment to that person that they love. Trust will always be a issue deep down inside whether people admit or not...hence why ppl say if it happens it happens and if it doesnt then it doesnt, is what ppl say to cope with their anxiety of trust...In order for a long distance relationship to work, more work has to be put into communication and consistent visits, and faith from both partners ofcourse that it'll work. Relationships build by spending time as well, so i guess it also depends on the individual and their tolerance level to be patient and withstand temptations. Love is a give and take type of thing and can only last so far, if you hav'nt built an strong bond with your spouse prior to the distant relationship. Most people i know who ended up marrying the person that they were in a long term relationship that worked out, told me that they had to set their focus on other things temporarily and work on themselves meanwhile still keeping contact with the partner, until the time came for the to be together after like 4 to 8 yrs!!!...if its in ur destiny to last then it will, if not then it wont. Both minds have to be in Harmony for it work and for the Love to still be there.
ReplyDeleteLong distance relationships can work. They just don't work for everyone.
ReplyDeleteTo start off, it can only work with two people that really care/love about each other. Otherwise, like Mr. Complex said, anything can break you. Many think that when it comes to long distance relationships, they are limited. People need to learn to break barriers and stop being lazy. Fuck gas prices, fuck inconvenient times, and fuck what others may think. Visit your significant other. Video chat on Skype or TinyChat. Take vacations with eachother. Yes, it requires spending extra cash that you would originally use on a new outfit. But isn't it worth it?
Also, long distance can depend on how emotionally you two are connected. If yall lack in intimate conversation and emotional support, then forget about it.
I will agree though, that long distance isn't for everyone. Even those who have a crazy strong emotional connection and fulfill all said "requirements". Sometimes it just doesn't work out. But it is dependent upon the individuals and life's road bumps. Not everyone, who would break their bank for a rendezvous with their love, can afford to.
But long distance can work, just not for everyone.
Long distance relationships can work but only if the individuals involved are mature enough, have a relationship built on trust, and committed to each other enough to want to make it work.
ReplyDeleteTo Kessy's comment: the truth of the matter is that there is NO relationship where you can be close to/with your significant other 100% of the time. No one is ever going to be there for you every time that you need them. So these "moments of weakness" that you speak about? Are bound to happen at some point and that is no excuse for someone to go looking for love in the wrong places. People need to learn how to control themselves.
I think it could work.
ReplyDeleteI believe with all the new types of technology that create many ways for you and that person to communicate it can help keep the relationship strong and fresh. With things like texting where you can express things you normally wouldn't say in words, facebook, and AIM it helps you be more verbal without being verbal. I even read that email even helps relationships stay strong.
There is also webcam system like skype so you can see that person whenever you miss them. Even though you know you physically miss them, just seeing them reminds you that in the end it will be all worth it.
Also to stay out of trouble you just dont need to put yourself in such tempting situations, so you can learn to control yourself. And there are plenty things you do to cope with that lonely feeling you get sometimes.
I feel that if you really love that person you will do whatever it takes to keep yall together. And if you have a plan one day of being closer together, then looking forward to that day will drive you even more to be strong and committed.
I used to believe that long distance relationships were impossible, but now that I find myself in one, I'm forced to reconsider. The way I see it, every relationship needs trust, and all that, and a long distance relationship is just a more intense form of a regular one. I think it can work, if both parties accept the situation they're in. It's important to be positive, long distance allows you to have all the space you want, and by not seeing that special person all the time, it makes it even more special when you do see them. You cherish stupid things like taking a trip to the barber shop for three hours, just because you're so happy to finally be with that person. A huge part of relationships are not physical, and even though a long distance relationship might be frustrating, what relationship isn't. Just be happy that you finally have someone on an emotional, and spiritual level, and in the end, I think it can all work out if it's meant to be...
ReplyDeleteI strongly believe that long distance relationships can work. I myself am in one. My boyfriend is in the Navy, so I see him maybe once or twice a month (if it's a good month). It takes a lot of work, but I found that as long as communication stays open everything works out. It takes two strong people to keep the relationship going. There are many things that you can do to keep the relationship going until you "see the other again". For instance, Skype sessions, getting flowers or gifts through the mail, talking on the phone, etc. I admit, I actually prefer the long distance relationships, because being in college I find it easier to focus on my education and not having to "entertain" my boyfriend all the time. And then when we do reunite...the reunion is unforgettable...(if you know what I mean).
ReplyDeleteYeah I know its all about trust ladies but I did that at one point.
ReplyDeleteMe and this chick were dating for a good two years. It was sophomore year in high school. I trusted her. Lord knows I did! I did not stress her, bother her or any of that garbage. The calls were daily, one before she went to sleep and when she woke up. I would text "I miss you's and I love you's" just so she know that she was on my mind.
One weekend I decided to pay her a surprise visit. Cause it was like a random day and I had nothing to do. Before I pulled up to the crib I called her phone around or what not. "NO ANSWER" but, hey, that does not mean nothing...right?!?!
So, that call was made when I was a couple miles outside her city. Then when I got into her neighborhood I called her back.
She answers
My girl: "Hey babe whats up"
Me: "Guess what"
My Girl: "what"
Me: "I am in town"
My Girl: (Confused voice) "In town?!?"
Me: yea baby I wanted to surprise you
My Girl: Where are you?!?!
Me: Is everything okay you seem a little worried are you good..
My Girl: (unsure voice) uh yea, yea,
(Phone hangs up)
Me: hello???!?!
I was not in my normal whip because I had to put the whip in the shop and was using my homeboy car and when I pulled up this BROAD was walking some other DUDE to a chevy impala!!
You know...I just kept driving and she tried calling me back but I didnt answer. When I got back home I chewed her out let her know I saw everything and her tired ass was not slick!
I mean ladies and gentlemen of the jury...She had me fooled, flabbergasted, and I thought the calls, the texts, the visits, I thought I was doing it all! Now, I dont do long distance relationships n e more!!
WELL I THINK IT DEPENDS HOW STRONGLY THE INDIVIDUALS CARE FOR ONE ANOTHER SOME MAY THINK ITS IMPOSSIBLE BUT I BELIEVE IT IS A MEASURE OF EACH INDIVIDUALS TRUE LOVE HEY EVERY1 HAS THEIR OWN OPINIONS BUT THATS WHAT I THINK
ReplyDeletepoor fella...always announce yourself, lol. She was wrong tho, lol
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