Fellas, this is what we all need to try to be. Im not gonna say who's wall I stole this from but...a good message none the less!
"Good Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the
streets, in the malls, and at work. Most we can't see because we don't
know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough
or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a
Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as
you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your
back rather than someone who turns your head.
A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say.
He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He
doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he
won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may
clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even
admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do
the same.
A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist.
He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his
wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs
to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you
can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!"
A good man isn't insecure about his woman having great
achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes
disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for
the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him
happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and
accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good
woman will bring her good man right along with her.
A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or
Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable
to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy
tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth
that our men are no good. It's just not true.
A good man is a man of his word. He says what he means and
means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you
wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. A good man
has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and
for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you
grow..."-Unknown
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So very true and sad that most women will always be looking for the wrong man when the right one was the last thing they were looking for. But the same can be said of men of course
ReplyDeleteIt takes more than just a list of good qualities to make a relationship bloom, the other half is chemistry. If a list of good qualities was all it took then love would be easy, unfortunately good credentials don’t always create sparks. I agree that some women do go after the wrong things but just because a woman passes up one good man doesn’t mean she’s going after the wrong one.
ReplyDeleteBut if they dont work out was he the right one? or at least the right one for the time...lol!
ReplyDeleteI mean hey theres never really anything depicting what a good man is but every woman can bash us ya know. So I figured this was needed. So now if your man is not exhibiting these qualities or at least working towards them then you can re adjust and you guys can grow together. Or realize that hmmm maybe he is not what I need after all.
But hey, at least dudes have a place to look if they didnt know how to be one at all. So post this on ya brothers walls and stuff ya know or past the word. Maybe they need to read this. Im trying to get at least one or two on the right path I dont need them all to change it up ya dig!