Lets Talk About Sex Baby

So a few months back I was asked these series of questions by a homegirl who is a writer for a magazine in her hometown. So here it is...Just found this thing...

1. When it comes to men versus women, what do you think the average number of sexual partners should be for each? Why?

Well, if you want to base things according to society a woman should never exceed more partners than two or three. Do I personally believe that…NOPE! But, the double edge sword that is society expects a woman to never exceed the number of sexual relationships as that of the man. Its actually expected and accepted for a man to have a multiple of partners because that is what “men” are supposed to do. Brag about the many women they have succumbed and become the coolest in the world. It sucks but its just assumed that women should not have too many partners because it just seems socially disgraceful.

2. Would you tell someone you’re dating how many sexual partners you’ve had and would you want to know their number? Why or why not? (also for each statement following)

I would and I wouldn’t. I would hate to be judged because I lived a foolish life being a male and just getting caught up in being cool and loosing a woman that was truly THE ONE for me especially if I cut that lifestyle out and was no longer that same young man. Now, if i tell her it might because I like her a lot and I just want her to accept me for who I am and if I truly care about her how could I lie, ya know.

2b. Would you tell them the correct number and would you believe them if they told you their number?

It all depends if I feel like she is just a female who like to know my dirt just so she can know it and we are not gonna progress towards a relationship yes, I will lie. But, if I know she wants more than just a convo and getting in my business. And trust you can tell where the relationship is going so you just have to be wise. Its just my business is my business and if I am not going to be your man and you are not going to be my lady then you really do not need to worry if I have been with 1 or 1000. But regardless of what number count they give you, you and your partner need to get tested and make sure your safe if you hope to make a family and a future together.
2c. Do you agree with the following statement: “When a guy tells you the number of sexual partners he’s had, subtract 5. When a girl tells you her number, add 5.”
Lmao! Yea prolly or some do not care. I mean I know things always getting thrown on guys but please believe women will do the same.

3. If people knew how many sex partners you’ve had, would you care? How would you feel about them knowing this?

I would care its my business. I do not need to expose my relationships with women its what I do in my personal life. And if you know all of my info and I have never told you then that’s when it becomes a problem because either you don’t know how to conduct yourself or your just messing with foolish people. But I really don’t want to know why people feel like this is a question people are supposed to answer. And maybe they ask because they only had one partner so they wanna socially judge others because they just assume that they are a new Orleans “saint.” And if people knew my number of partners then I would be upset for a while but I would just deal with it and keep it moving. Cause who the hell are the people around me to be trying to put me out because there shoning and there business is still safe. I DIGRESS

4. What would you do//say//think about a girl/guy who had a high number of sexual partners?

HEY, WHAT CAN YOU SAY?!? It happened before me. Now if you are having sex from about middles school high school up until the end of college you may have a few partners. May, you don’t necessarily have to but if it does happen then you know it happen before you. Get off your double standard high horse and chill. Now, whether you want to be with her or not is something different. If you would prefer not date anyone with more than ten partners then that’s your preference. But, lets not judge her for that matter. It can go back to lack of a father figure, negative influences and so much more. And if I love her I will accept the good with the bad. Just as I would hope she would do for me as well.

5. What are your thoughts on casual sex in general?

Look get yours! Personally, you not gonna always be surrounded by mr. right but in the mean time you could be getting those late night frustrations out through so some much needed sexual passion and drive. I will say that you be responsible get you a team and know about your team well enough to get all your different fixes. Or just have you your one fix. Casual sex is okay but do note that it does get boring after a while. My homegirl said it best “you can have a thousand lovers or love one person a thousand ways.” And that comment has stuck with me. So instead of trying to be a typical guy I am trying to take a bye week and not try to get anymore scores on the board but actually practice and work hard to making sure I can be the next best player for any woman that comes my way next! Ya feel me? Cool! Peace!